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Would you allow your adolescent child date and why?
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Yes I would and I have two reasons why.

Firstly I'll start with the one my father gave me. He told me to go out and date and get used and get sense. Basically he wanted me to learn how cruel people can be in life and in relationships and to learn to guard my heart fiercely. He wanted me to learn that in life you have to find that right person before giving your all. And as they say experience is the best teacher.

Secondly, I'm the kind of person to question most things. In my country, Nigeria, there's a really stupid way of raising kids. Parents never talk about anything sexual with their kids. No sex education, no birds and the bees talk. No nothing. They just assume that their children will figure it out "when the time is right" but if the child should be seen with the opposite sex, he or she automatically becomes a bad child and gets an ass wooping. Then when you're in your twenties they'll just come out of nowhere and start talking about marriage. Children must learn to walk before they run.

I'd let my children date because I want them to learn what my father wanted me to learn and also, I'd rather have them trust me enough to talk to me about their lives so I can give what advice I can. No matter how old a child is, he should be able to come back to his parents when he needs advice on something new. Condemning a child because he is dating will only push the child away from you and make him hide that part of himself from you.

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Yes I most certainly would!! The worst thing you can do to your kids is make them hide their sex/relationship life from you and that's exactly what's going to happen if you don't let your adolescent kids date.

It's better to be aware of what's going on in your children's relationship and sex lives early on, that way when they actually start having sex or at least are thinking about it, they'll have the confidence to come and talk to you about it. It's a much better option than finding out that your child has been sleeping with half the block.

I grew up in a family where the very thought of dating someone was thrown out the window, we were expected to focus on two things, God and our books, well guess what, it didn't work!!! By 16 I'd already had more than a couple of boyfriends and my parents had no idea. Within a year, I'd kissed half of the guys on the block and I didn't think there was anything wrong with that because I literally didn't have anyone to talk to about all these changes and feelings that I was having.

By the time my parents actually realised that talking about these things where important, the damage was already done and I was already in college and left home with the reputation as the "easiest" girl on the block. Of course they'd never find out about this, but when I actually realised that was what people where saying about me, it broke my heart and made me close myself off emotionally.

Till today I still find it hard letting people in, all because my parents didn't talk to me about relationships early enough. Soon they'll start calling for me to get married, but how am I supposed to do that when I'm a mess emotionally.

The bottom line is that letting your kids date in their adolescent years is the best thing you can do because whether or not you sanction it, they'll do it anyway and it's better to have them do things out in the open and not behind your back.

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An adolescent child does not understand what dating is about so there's no point allowing him/her to date. Everything in life is in stages and there's a time for everything. The stage the adolescent is in life is not a stage where he or she can understand what dating is and what its purposes are.

Besides, an adolescent can't be able to handle or bear the consequences of early dating should they show. He/she should try to understand who he/she is and study to get an educational foundation instead of going into dating. Dating is not for kids

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Yes, I will just make sure he's informed about how to be responsible. I won't promote him to become sexually active, I'll advise against it until he's older.I doubt he'll listen, but I will try my best to make sure he's safe. 

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