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Would divorce be an option when a partner cheats?
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This kind of question is so fascinating and pretty amazing to answer because it just gives one the opportunity to consider things from opposite angles.

I'd like to being by saying that I've lived in a community where divorce is scorned so much that couples who have gone through a divorce are looked upon with so much disgust and denigration-- especially the women- - that most of them prefer to stay in an abusive relationship where their partner beats them and constantly cheats on them than have a dicorce.

Some of them do it too because of their religions, which tells them that to have a divorce is explicitly evil and one must stick with ones elationship at all cost.

I'm not trying to dispel anybody's religion, of course, neither am I trying to criticize or whatever, what I'm just saying is it doesn't seem really rational when you really think about it. I mean life's too damn short to spend every frigging second of your life engrossed in unhappiness. Not to mention the psychological imbalance that is a certain by product of such conditions. And then the effect it has on the poor children who have to be in and consistently witness such a situation all the time.

And this of course is where the quandary comes in. Because some might argue that growing up with divorced parents is one of the worst things that can happen to a child. This is why I said this kind of question is fascinating to say the least, because then you'd consider that maybe the children who have known the pain of growing up with two different parents would have wished their parents stayed together at all cost.

But is that really worth it? IMO the most prominent thing to do is make sure you find the right partner for you, and not rush into things in any way. And here is where your question comes into play, and the answer I've been trying to drive at with the above illustrations.

Now if you've found someone whom you're absolutely certain of, and that person ends up cheating you, you of course get to a place where you weigh both of the factors mentioned above. On the one hand you have divorce and another chance at happiness, and on the other hand you have sticking around and enduring the pain!

There is no right answer that can be attained, of course, without considering the peculiarities of the situation. Does the partner have a history of cheating? Is it a one timd thing? What really is the cause? Does the other partner have a role to play whatsoever? Is the matter likely to repeat itself? etc.

It is only after all these have been weighed in one's mind, and perhaps one has sought outside help, that one can decide. But the decision should not be made without all these considerations. And it can not be made without weighing again the consequences listed above--i.e to sacrifice your happiness and endure (knowing things might not change), or to leave and find peace elsewhere (knowing your children might be affected forever).

In life almost nothing is black and white and every situation is peculiar. But with all these in mind one can arrive at the best solution for each unique cases. Have a nice day.

Cheers.

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I'm not entirely sure I'm the best person to answer this question seeing as I have very strong opinions on the concept of marriage itself, but I'll try to answer it as objectively as possible.

Now marriage is supposed to be a life long commitment so because one person breaks a vow, does that mean that the other should pack up and leave the marriage?? I don't think so. I personally would be devastated if my spouse cheated on me but leaving him wouldn't be on the cards, at least not before I figure out why he cheated.

Now as much as we'd like to say that our spouses are terrible people for cheating, let's not forget the fact that we may play a key role in that. Some people cheat because they feel neglected, others cheat because maybe their partners don't know how to satisfy them and aren't willing to learn how, there are many reasons why people cheat. Now cheating isn't acceptable at all but accepting your own part in the reason why your partner cheats is important.

Now maybe you've been the perfect spouse and you do everything you can to make your spouse happy but they still cheat, that's fine, it's not your fault, maybe you just married a terrible person, maybe your spouse loves you but in a moment of weakness they gave in to their carnal urges, you never really know.

Nobody's perfect and this is coming from a person who's never cheated a day in her life. The only criteria for cheating that I would make me actually wholeheartedly support a divorce is if the person cheated because they didn't love their spouse anymore, then and only then would I sanction a divorce because marriages don't work without love.

Cheating can be unforgivable, but you have to ask yourself key questions when you partner cheats, questions like " Was it my fault??", "Why did he/she cheat", "Will getting a divorce really make me happy?", "How would I feel if I saw my spouse happy with another person", "Can I forgive them and put this behind me". It's questions like this that will let you know if getting a divorce is the right thing for you or not.

In my opinion, I don't think a divorce is the best thing to do, at least not without trying to work things out first, love and marriage are intertwined with the word forgiveness and if you can forgive your spouse, then maybe you both can put it behind you and grow old together. Finally, cheating is a one time offense, anything more than once and I'll gladly sanction a divorce.

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I would say yes. It can probably be fixed but it will never be the same. 

Trust is key to any relationship and once that has gone you have nothing. Cheating is breaking that trust and in my eyes it is finished. It doesn't matter how much talking or counselling happens it can never be fixed properly. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

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Cheating is the highest form of disrespect of one's partner. It changes the dynamics of a relationship and erode trust from it. But cheating doesn't have to lead to the end of a relationship if the cheating partner felt sincerely sorry for his or action, apologized and truly made a resolve to work on himself /herself and restoring the relationship regardless of what it may take, such person should be given a second chance and things should be worked out.

But if he/showed no remorse or isn't sincerely sorry for such action and willing to work things out, divorce should be considered. Though it depend on the partner cheated on and if he or she wants to give the relationship another chance

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In my eye's it's the only option.

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