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Can you marry someone who dosen't share the same religion with you?
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 Well i was grown up in a catholic foster home, and that made me a Catholic in my youth, until i got older and then i stopped believing. Then i met my woman who learned to be a Buddhist, and we are also from different cultures.

So what i personally think , that people can marry with everyone, as long if they are prepared to make a compromise. And there is no religion what can be used as a excuse for not making a compromise, because it's common sense to accept that your partner might think different or was grown up with a different teaching then you!

When people use religion to proof there points, then the problem is in that person, because he don't want to make a compromise.

But it looks like many people simply forgot what a religion really is, it's a guideline to unity with everything, there for it's called religion, religion means unity. So to say that religion might be the cause of the break of a relationship, is nothing more than a contradiction, because a religion should unite!

That saying people can marry with everyone as long that they are prepared to make a compromise, and that could be agreedment in front. 

What latterly means, look i believe what i want and my traditions are this and that, and i will never convince you what to believe or talk negative about your religion, unless we talk about evidence or the facts of a religion. And i respect every choice you make for your religion and i hope you will do the same with me, and i will never force you to participate in my religion, or enforce you to listen about my religion unless you ask for it. If you agree then we get married?

I don't think this can work out negative in the future. Do you?

But what about when kids or children come? That's a very good question, like you read my mind.. So what do you think would be the best choice? Bombard our children with two stories and hope for the best story to win?

Nope that don't work, but let me tell you what i think. It seems like many forgot that a religion should be a volunteered choice. That means, someone should come to the realization to accept a religion, because he wants to believe in that.

And children either lack of knowledge, life experience and wisdom to see a objective view of all religions, to make the right choice. However, when they turn 18, then they could decide what they want to believe. And before that time they should stay neutral and only observe and learn from the different cultures or religions.

And that is difficult to accept for many people, many parents just want to learn their children what they had learned from their parents. Without thinking of the fact that we only learned what others had learned them, and they from others again and that when back from generation to generation.

While we could also learn our children about our religions, without telling them to believe in them. Like, look this is what i believe and i believe after i found out this or that, and you are still small and when you are older and wiser than you must found your truth and accept that as your belief...

I don't see anything wrong in this to.... So people can marry someone with a different religion or culture, but they must use logic, and prepared to use that they agree to disagree ,and that they are open to make a compromise about everything! 

When people then come with, no because my religion this or that, then let him be, because then they are not ready to evolve to the next level! 

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Marrying someone who shares your own religion (and being happy) is hard enough already. I can’t imagine how hard it can get if you marry someone outside your sets of beliefs.

I have actually seen marriages fall apart for religious reasons. Being tolerant does not come easy when it comes to religious discrepancies under the same roof. Of course, statistically, my guess is that more marriages of same-religion couples crumble (given that most couples share religion and the percentage of divorce and separations is at an all-time high).

I don’t think I could do it. I do not practice any religion, even though I was born and raised Catholic and I may, under pressing circumstances participate of some activities, be at a mass, etc. I think that marriage is a very serious and fragile institution and the least thing you need amid the common list of issues that will generate conflict is to add the most incendiary of all: religion.

All religions allegedly preach love and peace (well, some more than others), but we have daily examples of how sensitive people get when they feel that their core beliefs are being questioned, let alone threatened. Most believers would choose their religion over their spouses and couples who do not share the same religion should be aware of that. They should also be aware that they marry not only the spouse, but the whole family and sooner or later some part of that family will put pressure on religious matters.

Again, marriage is a very fragile enterprise and in the same way couples plan their finances, professional projects, and children, they should also plan for a harmonious environment. Religious differences can be a serious source of conflict, in my opinion.     

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In my opinion, yes.

My husband and I have just celebrated our ten year anniversary.  My husband is a practicing Free Methodist and I was raised Catholic.  He attends church faithfully with his parents every Sunday.  I however, am not a practicing Catholic.  I have my own  way of practicing my faith.   This hasn't been a big issue in our marriage.  If my husband asks me to attend church with him and his family, I am willing to attend and participate because it is important to him.   We talk about religion, God, and prayer, however, it isn't as big of part of my life as it is his.  I don't think negatively of his religion, faith, or practice.  We are open about discussing things that I might not understand or stories that he wants me to know.   We do not have children so I think it helps with being from different faiths and not having to decided what faith our children should be brought up in.

Differences in people is what makes the world a fantastic place.  We learn from people who are different from us.  Be open to listening and understanding what is important to the people you love.

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I am a Muslim. According to some of the Muslim scholars, there are two possibilities for marrying a Muslim to a non-Muslim for the said scenario:

  1. Invite the man/woman to Islam. If she/he is interested in knowing about the Islam, teaches her/him about the laws and teachings of the prophet. If she/he accepts Islams, not because she/he wants to marry you but because she/he thinks that Islam is a good religion to follow, then marry her/him afterwards.
  2. A Muslim can marry a Jew & a Christian without converting them to Islam. Islam accepts their prophets as the true prophets.

So, yes, I can (only if you would have asked this question 20 years earlier ... lol).

Thanks & have a beautiful day.

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It is common in my country for two individuals of different religion to get married. Usually, there needs to be sacrifices made for those who have gotten married and are of different religions or even ethnicity.

In my country, it is part of the law that anyone who married a Islam have to convert to Islam. I have many friends who have converted to Islam and have had to follow the different requirements of the Islamic law. One of them is to go to the mosque and pray on a weekly basis.

The other thing are the restraint to eating pork. But however some of my friends still do that.

Some of the people I know have begun to embrace their partners customs after a long time of being married and being together. They have gotten used to the different customs that both religions present.

I guess not all of these marriages end up happy. There are also many that have ended up being divorced due to the enormous different that the couple face when they got married and have different customs and culture.

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I'm nominally Christian but a non-believer in reality. Despite not believing in God, I want ceremonies such as weddings and funerals where I'm involved somehow to take place in a church because of reasons having to do with tradition. I don't care about the supernatural aspect of religion at all. It's all about the community and the ceremonies and the fact I find ceremonies taking place in a church being having more weight. What this means that there would be an extra hurdle to marrying someone of a different religious background. 

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Not all religions are created equal.

I'm non-religious but I do recognize that just having a religion don't make one fundamentally different from myself.

I would say, that more than the belief in a deity itself, all the surrounding beliefs matter more.

Religion on most basic level is but an ideology.

And some ideologies, even they may differ from my own, are more or less compatible with my own.

So yeah, I could marry a buddhist, I couldn't marry a fundamentalist muslim. The same, I could marry a conservative atheist but would never marry a socialist communist.

So, I guess, my answer to your question is a Positive one.

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It is possible but this is definitely not easy. I have no idea why religion gets in the way of everything.

I am not overly religious and won't change either. If you love someone that is far more important than religion in my eyes. It wouldn't be a problem for me but I know of split families that try push each others religions at the children. This has a negative effect and the children normally turn their backs on the religion because of this.

I would say a majority don't work because it is too big an issue.

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Yes, you can. In many countries marriage is done at the city hall, by a city officials, you don't have to go to the church. Besides, in many countries marriage in the church is just for you, it's not legally recognized. This is how people have two ceremonies, one at the city hall, the other at the church.

If you can accept to live with a person of another religion, you can marry him/her, that's not a problem.

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My Dad is a Muslim while my Mum is a christian. Being from different religion, it affected we the children enormously. There were a kind of competition in the family on to which religion to be practised by the children. As the head, my dad taught us the way of Islam from the scratch but his effort wasn't enough and my mum hijacked him and compress us with her own believe. Eventually, there was division and commotions when my dad discovered that almost all his children has started attending churches. He picked quarell with my mum almost everyday on this.

He kept telling her not to affect us with her belief. If I have left you to practice your religion without any disturbance, please don't carry my children along with you. This little story almost tore my family apart. When they initially started their love matters, it wasn't like that. They both agreed to stay on different religion without infringing on each others right to religion because of the bond of love between them, and of cause they maintained it until they had children that now became the bone of contention.

I was a living witness to everything that happened in my family. Every lady that got married to a christian was almost disowned by him. We had quite a rough living because of this. He would never allow his children to practice any other religion apart from Islam but some were taking by the mother already.

I think I learnt a good lesson from this. As a child that came from such family, I know what it entails to have a spilt religion in the family. In this wise, I would rather prefer to marry someone that has the same belief with me. I wouldn't want to risk what my parent did. What if they both weren't strong enough to manage the misunderstanding that ensue as a result of teaching the children individual religion.

Honestly, there is nothing wrong with marrying someone sharing different religion with me but to avoid unforseen marital complications, I would rather change plans while at shore than to set sail and sink at sea. Every one will like his or her children to practice his or her religion. That is where the issue will emantate. I will play safe and marry someone having the same belief as I do.

Thanks.

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Truthfully I can't, there are many disadvantages to it no matter how much love we both believe we share, first, living with someone who share a different view on belief can result to dispute in how often they carry out their activities which is contrary to what you do. As of marriage, partners are supposed to be as one, doing and sharing ideas as one. When these doesn't occur , you live like two different people in one apartment practicing a belief that could be inconvenient to each other because we don't fully understand to what perspective the other person speaks from.

Outside that, it could affect the children when it comes to which religion to take on, it becomes a Tiff when the children take up the mum's side or dad's side, which isn't comfortable at all.

Finally, it feels lonely doing a thing all alone despite one is married. Going to church or mosque alone becomes tiresome and Sharing different worship days . This form of marriage doesn't portray unity and happiness one sort after , it's more like two different individual living together.

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