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What is your #1 advice for new parents??
My first kid is due in a month. What's your top piece of advice?
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Make your children understand that they'll be always accepted by you if they fail or make mistakes.

Many children have end up in depression and falsehood because of fear of letting their parents know about the true state of their life and struggles. For instance, a father tells his son, "as you get to college, make sure you succeed, if not be ready to pack your bags and leave". The pressure to become successful and perfect can destroy a child's opportunity of learning from mistakes and failures to create a better version of themselves.

Always make your children feel loved, and most importantly let them understand that it's okay to make mistakes at times, that it's okay to fail. The Herculean task of a child to become perfect can launch him/her into depression and other times into the thoughts of committing suicide.

Raise your children in a convenient way that will enable them take meaningful risks, explore life and make up when they fall apart. Let them understand that it's important to always do your best, however when your best doesn't yield required outcomes that it can be improved upon.

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Well, there's probably all kinds of advice, but I'll try to keep it to one, just for you.

First of all, congratulations. This is an exciting time, and I hope that you're able to enjoy the moment. Not necessarily the moment of birth. That you just need to try to stay calm for and help out as you can (which probably won't be a whole lot, but holding her hand and trying to make her as comfortable as possible is something she'll remember).

Rather, the excitement is becoming a father for the first time, and knowing that you will have the opportunity to watch your own flesh and blood learn, grow and become someone greater than self. It's a responsibility, but it's also a tremendous blessing, one that might be hard to see as the baby is crying, needing to be changed, etc., etc., but that you will see glimpses and much more of as the journey progresses.

I guess the No. 1 piece advice that I could give you is to find ways to set boundaries while leaving no doubt that you love your child. Not the easiest thing to do, especially in this day and age, but providing a framework and opportunities to make decisions only works if both mercy and consequences exist. It might not seem so important at the start, but getting into routines with your baby will help them and you at the earliest point that you can get them up and running.

However, there is a balance that needs to be established to where you're not taking everything so seriously that neither you nor them get a chance to enjoy yourselves and have fun. So, a sense of humor will go a long way in all of this, while holding firm to whatever rules you deem important to have. And obviously, you won't be the only one making those decisions, so having ongoing discussions about that, and making modifications as you go, will be very much appropriate.

I obviously can't guarantee that your child will not be willful, make mistakes, test your limits, or in the end, fall in with the wrong crowd, but you do have quite a bit of influence and say into that now, and in the future, if you do your best to be a loving father, they will remember that at some point and decide that in finding their own way, there's still some boundaries that shouldn't be crossed.

Finding all that balance will be the interesting part of it all, and probably the most difficult. I would also say, you've got this, and that you're not alone. Even beyond your significant other, there are extended family members who have experience, and so don't be ashamed or reluctant to reach out to them in times of need, but don't be afraid to do things on your own, either, as experience is a great teacher.

Good luck. I hope all goes well with everyone involved and that through it all the net experience will be well worth it.

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DON'T raise your kids such that they will grow up fearing you. Raise them with love, correct and guide with love. You should be the first person your kid will approach when they are in trouble or uncertain. Give them confident in you.

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His name is also a new parent, it's natural that we haven't experienced caring for a newborn baby. Well, there are basic things that need to be considered and become a habit when caring for newborns.

Wash hands (or use hand sanitizer) before handling the baby. Newborns do not have a strong immune system, so they are susceptible to infection. Make sure everyone who holds or holds your baby, hands clean.

Be careful with the baby's head and neck. Don't forget to put the baby's head in his hand when carrying it. Also support the head when holding the baby upright or when placing the baby in his bed.

Be careful not to shake the baby. Heavy shocks can cause bleeding in the brain and even death. If you want to wake your baby, do not shake it instead you can gently tickle your legs or cheeks.

Make sure the baby is tightly placed on the sling, stroller, baby seat or car seat. Limit any activity that can be too rough.

Remember the baby is not ready to play 'rough' like being rocked on the knee or thrown into the air.

Hopefully it will provide benefits.

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