Can a husband Rape his wife?
Does rape happen in a marriage?

You have asked quite a sensitive question. This is because each day several women across the globe are becoming rape victims. In most countries, rape is a felony, a crime that comes with severe punishment, sometimes a death sentence or life imprisonment.

Before I answer your question I'll like to briskly define rape. Rape is the act of having unlawful carnal knowledge of a woman without her consent or in cases where such consent is obtained by fraud or by threats.

Now to your question: the question of whether a husband can rape his wife or not is strictly a legal matter. Under some jurisdictions, if a husband sleeps with his legal wife without her consent, the man may be prosecuted for rape. Whereas, in some other jurisdictions a husband cannot be prosecuted for rape even if he forces his wife into sexual intercourse. The latter jurisdiction assumes that a husband has a right to have sex with his wife even if such action is against the will of his wife.

To further elaborate my point, permit me to quote the definition of rape under the Nigerian Criminal Code.

> *The Nigerian Criminal Code in Section 357 states that, “Any person who has unlawful carnal knowledge of a woman or girl, without her consent, or with her consent, if the consent is obtained by force or by means of threats or intimidation of any kind, or by fear of harm, or by means of false and fraudulent representation as to the nature of the act, or, in the case of a married woman, by personating her husband, is guilty of an offence which is called rape.*

Section 6 of the Nigerian Criminal Code goes further to explain unlawful carnal knowledge *as that which takes place otherwise than **between husband and wife;** and the offence is complete upon penetration.* In other words, marital rape is not an offence in Nigeria.

In contrast, beginning from the 1930s most of the states in the US introduced marital rape into their laws. Today, all the 50 states of the US have laws that recognize marital rape. This makes it a crime for a husband to have sex with his wife without legally obtaining her consent.

So, to answer your question, it is possible for a husband to have sex with his wife without obtaining her consent. But whether the case will be treated as rape or not depends on the laws of the land. In the United States, it is possible for a man to rape his wife and even go to jail for his actions. Whereas, in Nigeria, a husband cannot rape his wife in the eyes of the law.

I hope this answers your question. Regards.


Yes it definitely happens and a husband can rape his wife. Any sexual intercourse without interest can be considered as a rape. That't what I feel. I have heard about so many cases where wife will not be having interest or she will not be ready to have a sexual intercourse but the husband will force her in spite of her showing her disinterest. This can be considered definitely as a rape. But unfortunately this will not be taken very serious at all and in most of the cased wife will get used to it and it will fade away. 

This situation happens a lot in arranged marriages in India. I'm not going to say that arranged marriages are wrong but there some arrogant husbands who don't know how to treat their wife after marriage and they will show pure lust instead of love and they even torture their wife after marriage. And just because it is an arranged marriage the wife will not be in a situation to express this with others as well. 

There are also situations where rape happens even in love marriages. When people love each other they will show good intimacy but after marriage wife might show some disinterest towards having a sexual intercourse and I heard about some husbands forcing their wife for sex. This is definitely a rape and I believe people who are torturing their wife for sex should also be punished. 


The term rape in marriage may sound familiar to some people. If you are married, what might be raped by your husband or wife? Are you married to someone who likes to like?

No, marriage does not mean you are free to demand to "serve" your needs whenever you want. Marriage is also not aware of your obligation.

Many people mistakenly assume that if they are married, it means that a man is free to have sex with his wife whenever he wants. This is because for a long time, women were considered as objects of sexual gratification whose opinions or desires were not important.

Sex is indeed a necessity and a very important element in a household. However, sex must be approved and both are desired by husband and wife. Having sex because of coercion or threats, even with your own partner, is the same as rape.

Marriage is no guarantee of the rights of one's body. In marriage, your partner is not an object that has no desires, feelings, or opinions. Even though she is married, the only person who has power over her own body is the herself.

Therefore, only she is the one who can determine whether she wants to have sex or not. No one has the right to force, threaten, or rap her. Even her husband or wife to husband. Especially other people.


Yes, and what is regrettable is that it is a type of rape that is neither denounced nor protested because it is believed, even in Western countries, that the woman, after being married, is obliged to satisfy her husband. Normally if a woman is raped by a stranger it is easier to denounce and understand that she was abused without consent, but when you are a couple it is more difficult because everyone believes that the man has a right over you and does not have to ask permission to use your body. 

I have known and heard cases in which women, because the husband arrived drunk, hide in the children's rooms because they know that if they sleep in their beds, they will be vilely raped and without being able to say anything at all. They force them and they can't do anything, sometimes for fear of waking the children, but always, because deep down they believe they should, they are obliged to satisfy the sexual desire of their partners because then they can leave it or cheat with others. There are husbands who when they say to them do not believe that they are saying yes. But when a woman says NO, IT IS NO! If they force her, they must know it is rape! 


Yes, marital rape is very frequent and widespread.

Marriage is a contract between two adults that they are willing to exclude other people as sex partners as per law. But that DOESN'T mean a married person must engage in sex whenever the partner request for it.

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Yes. Rape exists when there is forceful sexual intercourse without the consent of another party. It can have the element of coercion. Marital rape exists and is illegal and often under reported due to taboo and shame in some countries. It is a real issue. 


Before answering your question, we will need to understand the true definition of "Rape".

The word Rape means a type of sexual assault usually  involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration  carried out against a person without that person's consent.

This implies that raping can happen in marriage between the husband and wife. For good sex to established between the husband and wife, there  must be sign of sexual pleasure,stimulation and enjoyment between both of them as this will also help to develop the bond of the marriage.

If the wife isn't pleased or willing to have sex with her husband either due to hatred or loss of love she has for her husband,the husband must not force her or beat her just to satisfy his sexual pleasure because the wife can never enjoy the sex due to the lack of sexual pleasure in her. The man enjoys the sex while the wife suffers and feels sad and cheated while the sex was going on. We can see that this is a symbol of rape.

This kind of scenario do occur mostly in some arranged marriages whereby the lady may not love the guy or husband but she has no choice than to marry him because she dosen't want to go against her parents command. If the husband happens to be someone callous and brutal when it comes to having sex, it is observed that the lady may not be happy while the action is going on but the guy may not care about this because he only wants to satisfy his sexual pleasure or urge even though the wife may not want to have sex with him but she may not be able to resist him due to their weak strength when compared to man.

In conclusion, a husband can rape his wife despite they are married if it involves brutally forcing her against her will and disrespecting her without having any sense of pity on her. The lady suffers most in this kind of case and she is also deprived from her sexual pleasure.

Thanks for reading and i hope this helps.

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Yes of course!

Even if you dig on to the definition of rape : 

>  is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration carried out against a person without that person's consent. from Wikipedia

As long as it is against the person (worst, without consent) is considered as it is. Marriage is a bond (tie) of two people into one but that doesn't mean you have the complete authority over your partner. Forcing her to have intercourse with you does mean also slavery. Your partner is not your slave and that both of you should be happy with what you are doing.

It is still punishable under the law. Everyone should feel their partner, don't ever force things at your own pleasure.



Any sexual relation that doesn't involve consent is rape

That one is married doesn't give him the right to force his wife to have sex with him

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Nope, you never F*ckn Rape with someone that Love you too  :face_palm: 

By the way, why you ask this?

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Depends on how you define rape.

The statement above might sound horrible to some people.

Unfortunately, those people don't understand that the definition of rape have changed for centuries and wasn't always the same definition they subscribe to today.

Heck, even today, different people define rape differently.

To some, gender-communists, all heterosexual sex is rape, because men hold more political power. Seriously! Look it up!

If you look at, for example, what was considered rape in Abrahamic tradition,

you might find out, that having your daughter marry a man from another family was more of a financial transaction, a means to unify the community, bring two houses together and make them stronger rather than a union of love.

Even Eve was given to Adam, and had no choice but to be his wife.

In this kind of early culture, rape was a form of theft.

You could only rape an unmarried female.

And it was only a rape if the father of the daughter decided it was so.

You, as a rapist, could just pay him off, and that was not a rape anymore.

Nowhere in the equation, feelings or thoughts of the female were considered.


We went through the long centuries of social change. 

Women, at least in the western world, for the good portion of last 2000 years have been having more an more exercise in their self-determination.

And, today, we do recognize, something completely different when we talk about rape.

We take into account whether the female wanted, or at least acted like they want to be with the person.

We even start including males as possible victims, and not just as the perpetrators. 

Still, probably a majority of people would tell you that a man cannot be raped.

For me, the marital status of two individuals have not baring on the question,

did they consent to having sex with that person at this time?

If they said No, and the other person said, meh, I do it anyway.

I believe, they have a right to report it as rape.


Rape - the definition is very abstract in some sense.

This is the meaning I got from Wikipedia

Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration carried out against a person without that person's consent. (Wikipedia)

It is possible. There are some countries where men have forcefully gotten no permission from a girl to marry their spouse and it usually leads to rape as he felt that it is something that he is entitled to do since they have gotten into a legally binding agreement.

I don't think is right because if we switch that role around and change it to a different view. I don't think no one in this world wants to get raped.

It is not morally right. But sadly some humans in this world just do not feel of any wrong or have any ethically issues towards such actions and also towards their wife especially.

However, there are some cases which is of a more extreme view where both want to have a thrill by doing so as it pushes up the dopomine happy hormones that is of equal amount to maybe an extreme sports.


Well I guess so but I think if it has come to that point then they should probably have gotten a divorce long ago. If my wife does not want to have sex with me then the marriage is pretty much over at that point.