Firstly, marriage was created by God for Man and it's a beautiful thing when we follow God's principles about marriage.
Marriage is a platform for us to fulfill purpose and not to do anyhow.
We must understand that the man is the Head in the home and was the first species God made before the woman,so it's God's design for the Man to rule alongside the woman.
The reason God said the husband should love his wife is because the Man is not supposed to dominate the woman like some men do today, trying to make the woman lower than them while the woman duty is to be submissive to her husband.
Women thrive in an atmosphere of love and they were designed to be loved.