This question is very dicey. It is very difficult to decide whom to save as both are very important in the life of a man. A mother is the one that drives a child to the world. She carries him for 9 months and went through pain throughout the period. After the delivery,she breasts feed for years, clean sheet, take care of the child and so on. All the time, struggle and the pain she took to care for the child made them have a kind of intimate bond, and that is why a child doesn't play with the mother.The love is alarming.
A wife is someone a man lives with after leaving his parents. She picks up from where the mother stops. She takes care of him, mother his children, give him pleasure and plan life together.
If I save my mother, my wife will be gone forever. The love we share ends at that junction.I can re marry and live goes on, but what about the fate of the children? How will my family look like? Will there really be unity? I've seen lots of cases where the man remarries after losing his wife and the family scattered. Only few stood well. I'm not saying there isn't issues in first marriage but the mother will always protect her children. On the other hand if I save my wife, I won't have a mother anymore. I cant get another mother elsewhere. I will be left with only my nuclear family and still, life continues.
Now weighing the advantages,
A grown up child that has a wife is capable to run his life without seeking advice from his mother, which implies that he can still cope at reasonable extent even if the mother is not available.
A man that lost his wife will find it difficult to take care of the children.Even if another woman represents her, the scar cannot be made whole.No one can train the children like their mother.
I came to realize something when I lost a dear friend. This life is just something else. It was as if I would Also die and follow him, but here am I today. I just remember him once in a while and shook my head. My parent do say something. They say they are living their life and we the children will also live our lives differently when the time is right.
I don't pray to be caught in such an unpleasant situation but when the situation warrants me to save one, I will rather save my wife. My mum is old. She already had grand children and we have been taking care of her for a long time. It will be so wicked of me to sacrifice whom I agreed to protect in rain and sun. She is still young and her children needs her around. I love my wife and my mum and I am sure if she is aware of my situation, she will advice me to let her go and take good care of my family. My mum is great.