Relationship are the best thing that could happen to one in early life.
Yes I'm positive about this one. How can I forget so soon? I was just seventeen then. There's been a really cute guy in the neighborhood whose very thought and presence caused butterflies in my stomach. I always try to wear my best smile every time I know I may likely see him. I in fact looked forward to church meetings because I love church and mostly because I was going to see him. He had this questioning eyes. He needn't say a word. I just understood when his look meant approval or disapproval. And it seems to me that I always sought his opinion without asking. He understood me perfectly well. I was waiting like forever for him to ask me out. All I thought about every time I looked at his lips as he spoke was a kiss.
Finally, the much awaited day came. He didn't just ask me out, he first told me a story. And I loved stories. He knew that about me. He told me the story of a fishing festival that required the person with the biggest fish to be honoured. But then, he caught a small one with golden scales and silver fins. Now he doesn't know what to do to it. Whether to let it back into the water to swim on or to keep it and then he needed my opinion. I was smart. I was able to connect the dots. I knew it was a sort of parable with an underlying meaning. I was that small fish. I was just a teenager then, with a size quite small for my age. I had golden scales ought to mean that I was beautiful and the silver fins could pass for virtue and character. I've loved him since like forever that I had to tell him to keep the little fish.
He wasn't just my crush, he was also my friend. Correcting me every chance he gets. Teaching me what I needed to know. He was a strong pillar that supported my foundation for Christian growth. He helped shaped my life, inculcated values. I can't think of another so patient with me, so willing to forgive my faults. He was so understanding even without much explanation from me. His presence in my life helped influenced my decisions even years later. I couldn't help but be excellent because of him. He didn't demand less. Every chance he gets, he buys me books. He helped me to grow spiritually and challenged my mental capacity. I would study extra knowing he was going to brain tease me with questions. He wasn't just anybody, he was that special person. He was a pace setter, leading with clear examples. He's contributed so much to the woman I have become.
Relationships are the best thing that could happen to anyone especially in the early years of one's life. Humans are products of association. You reflect the association and company of the people you keep. They either point you in the right direction or in the wrong one. The people you relate with often would either spur you for growth and excellence or cause you to deteriorate. They determine whether you arrive your destination faster, slowly or never. It's very important that you are in the company of people who challenge you to be a better version of yourself because life thrives on dynamism.👌🏼
Well I wouldn't say that it's the best thing, but it's definitely a good thing. I've always believed that experience is the best teacher and having a relationship at a young age is one way to gain experience on how to be a good partner.
Managing a relationship isn't something that you just wake up one day and know how to do, no, it takes time and practice. Knowing how to react to a particular situation or what to do when your partner is being difficult is something that you learn as a relationship progresses or as you proceed from one relationship to another.
I remember my first serious relationship, I was 17 at the time and I'd just started dating my long time crush. Now by nature, I'm a very peaceful person, I don't like arguments and I don't like raising my voice for any reason. I didn't have a lot of problems with my gf at the time but when we did I learned that I had a couple of terrible flaws. I couldn't deal with jealousy and I couldn't handle my anger well, especially when it came to being replied late.
I actually learned alot from that relationship because in my next one, I curved my jealous tendencies and I managed to overcome my anger towards late replies. The thing is that there are alot of emotions that we don't know we have until we're in a relationship and I personally feel it's better to experience these emotions when we're younger, that way there's less damage.
Imagine being the head of a multi-million dollar project which requires you to be focused on the jobs at all times and you get your heart broken for the first time. Now everyone should experience heartbreak at least once in their lives that's something that I truly believe in, but I also know that it's better to experience it when you're younger. The project manager's productivity and concentration will undoubtedly be divided because he probably won't know how to deal with it.
Now in the case of a project manager who's heart has been broken before, it'll definitely hurt but I imagine that the effects will not be as strong and he'll know how to deal with it better. I've gotten my heart broken alot in my life and at first it would affect my performance when I was in school.
When I was in my first year in college, I was fresh out of a relationship with someone and I was devastated. I couldn't read, I couldn't listen in class, all I could do was think about her. Needles to say how my grades took a turn for the worst and I was basically left tumbling down failure avenue. Eventually I got over it, started dating someone else and got my heart broken again, but this time it was different, no matter how bad I felt, it never affected my performance in school because I created a mental block for my emotions and my academics.
If I hadn't learned to do that back then, who knows how I'd be right now. I'm a better partner today because I started dating people when I was much younger so I know most of the tricks of the trade. It's easy for me to look passed seemingly upsetting things that my partner does and I've learned how to properly communicate how I feel and what I want with her.
Relationships aren't actually the best thing that can happen to you early on in life....getting a big trust fund is, but as far as your love life is concerned then it's actually one of the best darn things that can happen to you.
I hope this helps.
I don't think getting involved in relationships early in life is advisable albeit should not be totally ruled out.
I said it is not advisable because of the different stages we all go through in life.
I believe to have a thriving, non - toxic relationship, we have to find ourselves first. Know your purpose and if possible goals; know what we want out of life and out of a partner. Have a personal definition of what love truly means to you. Most of people get physically and emotionally abused in early relationships and they accept it not just because they cannot walk out but because they don't know or have any definition of love.
Know your purpose and if possible goals; know what we want out of life and out of a partner. Have a personal definition of what love truly means to you.Most of people get physically and emotionally abused in early relationships and they accept it not just because they cannot walk out but because they don't know or have any definition of love.n't know or have any definition of love.
I started early in relationships and trust me right now I regret every time I remember it.
I found out that there was absolutely no need for me to had gotten involved in a relationship that early. I would have enjoyed a care free life without entangling myself with a relationship. There wouldn't had been any need to sneak around in the house with my date or lie to my mom when I had to go out .
I would have enjoyed a care free life without entangling myself with a relationship.There wouldn't had been any need to sneak around in the house with my date or lie to my mom when I had to go out . my mom when I had to go out .
I would have focused on family and joyous youthful moments I can never have back. Now I have all the time in the world to date yet I feel old already and these days I really prefer to be alone (am just in my twenties) which makes me wonder what will happen when I get older. :-)
To worsen it all, my siblings are all married and in different states; can't have those invaluable moments with them again.
To simply put it, living according to stages in life is far preferable. When you're a teen no need rushing into adulthood, trust me, you'll soon get tired. believe what I am trying to say is that NO NEED TO RUSH you have your whole life ahead of you.
To simply put it, living according to stages in life is far preferable. When you're a teen no need rushing into adulthood, trust me, you'll soon get tired.
PS: Most early relationships do not lead anywhere even if it ends up in marriage, most divorce cases is as a result of early marriage.
I totally disagree. You have to kiss a few frogs before you meet your princess or prince for that matter. I think its better to be young free and single in your teens and early 20's to really see what you like and don't like. When you finally want to go into a serious relationship then you will have more knowledge of who you want as a partner. Too many people are marrying young which leads to divorce because they realised it wasn't love. There's plenty of time for relationships later in life.
I think early in life, finding a sense of "self", and learning how to communicate productively with society is most important. Healthy relationships will follow as a result.
For me it was. Just for that reason I learned what I liked and what I wanted, so now that I'm older, when I should start an serious relationship, I can take it serious and don't see it as an experiment. But I was 16 if I remember correctly, when I had my first relationship. I don't know if you can call that early, but for me it was a perfect timing, just when I started maturing.
So yeah, there are benefits. It makes you take a relationship more serious and enjoy it more.
No I'm not agree. Because your relationship with some people starts late and you become a very close friend. I see the many people they were childhood friend. When they grow they emotions changing. After they don't talk again.
The relationships are very important. If you want your ralationships to be strong. You will love people unrequited. Then your relationships to be strong. No need to early relationships. We need to love.
If nothing be in your heart. You can love the people easy. For that no need to early or late relationship.
Relationships at the early stage of life are like a search engine. It can generate results you never searched and sometimes can just satisfy your curiosity with lavish care and attention.
It is however wise to look before leaping as a major cause of personality dissorders is the case of early abuse in life, making bent babies to grow into broken adults who can't have a clear view of life without getting intertwined with their past experiences.
Early relationships are good if they help you find your feet and dangerous if they touch you badly and expose you to activities and behaviours that would be dangerous on the aftermath.