I don't know about the pastors of other churches but I can speak for reverend fathers since I'm a Catholic myself. In the Catholic church, we have seven sacraments. The sacraments of
Every Catholic is allowed to receive the first five sacraments. But of the last two, a choice is needed. We can either marry and start a family or choose to dedicate ourselves to the God and his church. This is so because the church recognizes that neither of those two duties is an easy task. Neither of them is a simple affair. They both require life long dedication and as such are kept separate. In order not to over burden any one person with too much responsibility, the church asks us to pick on and dedicate ourselves entirely to it.
It is not like the married man and woman are not part of the family. Neither is it like they are not allowed to work in the church and serve here or there. But they are not allowed to be the head of a church as they are already the heads of their family.
As for pastors, I'm not sure that the same rules apply. In Nigeria, my country, many pastors are married and lead their churches with their spouses. I don't know about other countries but that's how it is in mine
Reverend fathers knew what they were getting into before the took such decision. They are prohibited from marrying because they want them to be fully committed to their ministerial functions without any distractions from wife or kids. It's the principle of the catholic that reverend father should not get married and those that chooses to be reverend fathers or nuns knew this before they made such decision, so it's not a human right violation in any way because it's their decision and they were not forced.
About having sexual desires and all that, humans can always control themselves and urges. That's why we have a will to decide what we want to do. Every man can control themselves and put their urge in check and these reverend fathers are trained on how to do that. So it's possible to live in this life and overcome every form of sexual urge.
The practice of prohibiting Priests from marrying is a practice that was invented by the Roman Catholic Church. Its one of the cases where the principles mentioned in scripture us taken too far my man just like the Pharisees imposed commandments of men on the Israelites ignoring the true intent of God's law.
Let's follow the background of scripture from the Old Testament. From studying scripture it becomes clear that the prophets and the faithful men of old had wives. Abraham(who God promised to make of him a great nation) obviously had a wife and he had a children, Issac and Jacob, Abraham's son and grandson also had wives and children.
When Israel(Jacob) became a nation, under the Old Covenant the Levetical priesthood was set up. When Moses led the people out of Israel to the promise land, the priest was Aaron. Aaron had four sons, two of them were killed when they offered profane fire to the Lord.
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What do we see from here? The High Priest Aaron had children also, it means he had a wife. Moses himself who was the prophet leading them had a wife too.
Fast forward to the New Testament, the Apostle Paul addresses this issue of being married and unmarried in 1 Corinthians 7. In verse 8 Paul says, " 8. So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am. 9. But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust "
This means that the option to marry should rest entirely on the shoulder of the believer. You might think the above scripture doesn't apply to Pastors, you'll see that it does in a moment.
Let's examine what the Apostle Paul's instruction was to those that would be appointed as deacons or bishops. In 1 Timothy 3 vs 2 Paul writes 2. A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, temperate, sober-minded, of good behavior, hospitable, able to teach
Why would Paul ask that a bishop should have one wife if they not supposed to marry?
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The practice of forcing priests to not marry is not biblical in any way and cannot be backed by scripture. It is perfectly legal for pastors to marry and have children. As humans we would at some point have the desire for sexual intercourse and as a pastor who will meet a large number of people men and women alike - and some really attractive ones at that, lol , if he cannot keep himself as Paul said in 1 Cor 7 he should go ahead and marry. God even said that He made a husband and wife one so "they can have Godly offsprings".
The problems caused by this practice has been evident in recent times with allegations of sexual abuse exploding like never before among Priests. Christians should always endeavor to study the bible themselves and research widely to know the truth because salvation is personal.
You might be nodding and convinced at this point that I'm correct. But what if all I just wrote is false? Don't trust me or my words, go check YOURSELF. Trust the Bible.
Thanks and have a nice day.