I think, yes, you can marry a man who is impotent or a woman who have no womb and that would happen when you are seeking a true companionship and nothing else ( like physical relationship, children or any other purpose).
I have seen many old aged people marry because they are alone and they need someone who can just live with them like a good friend and provide some meaning to the life that they were living otherwise.
There would be other cases, where people who are medically challenged, or are not able to live a normal life, would also try to opt for similar partners, or someone who can fill the gap in their life.
I definitely could . . .
And I would have married @emaferice, even if she didn't have a womb.
Before seeking a child, I wanted a good relationship, and with someone I could commit to, give to and hopefully uplift.
I found that someone in @emaferice and we got married in March of 2010. A few years later she got pregnant, but it ended up being an ectopic pregnancy, and the doctors had to remove what would have been our first born from @emaferice's fallopian tube - the baby was too young to survive.
That was a rough experience and it was exceptionally hard for @emaferice, who loved the unborn baby and always wanted to be a mother (both of us still think about our first baby up to this day, and it saddens us).
It was a hard few years for our marriage after that, and @emaferice also wanted to get pregnant again - Unfortunately for us (it seemed unfortunate at the time), Emafe could not get pregnant for what seemed like the foreseeable future. She only had one fallopian tube, and also suffered from PCOS.
In 2016, as a last restort, @emaferice prayed and asked God if he could give us a child for her birthday (July) or as a Christmas gift (Dec. 25th). But when her birthday passed in 2016, she didn't get pregnant - Some of the news we received from the doctors at the time, also discouraged us from hoping, so she surrendered.
Her thinking was that if God didn't give us a child, it wasn't meant to be. Then Christmas arrived in 2016 and she had already forgotten about it.
On December 26th, 2016 we went to a 7-11 to pick up some things, but the smell of the food in their store made @emaferice nauseous.
I advised that she take a pregnancy test, so she did, and as it turned out, she was pregnant for the second time.
@zaclucasrice was born in July of 2017, less than a week after Emafe's birthday. So it looks like Emafe got a Birthday Present AND a Christmas Present that year.
Zac Lucas is the energy of our life, he inspires us, gives us joy and more meaning in life, but I wouldn't have wanted to experience having a son with anyone else, only @emaferice. If she never got pregnant, I'd still be enjoying our marriage and living life to the fullest, to the best of my ability.
Marriage isn't a means to an end where I got married for a son, and my marriage with @emaferice has it's own merit and worth. My relationship and love for my son also has it's own merit and worth, so I wouldn't let the relationship with my son determine the worth of my relationship with Emafe (or visa-versa).
I love you, Zac Lucas AND Emafe 👪❤
- The first photo includes my wife, @emaferice, with her bridesmaids, and the second photo is our son, Zac Lucas 😊
That is a really good question. Yes, I could marry a woman who were infertile but only if she was happy with not having children. When it comes to children, I was a fence sitter. Either way was ok. I wasn't crazy about having children and could live without but having them was ok, too.
Why would I have been willing to marry an infertile woman only if she preferred not to have children? Because I'm not that crazy about kids that I'm willing to take on the huge responsibility of raising a child with potentially serious issues whose parents of origin and early circumstances I really know little to nothing about. I have no desire whatsoever to risk ruining my life to become parent to child who is not my own flesh and blood on top of everything. Why do I think about the risks so much? Because the world is becoming increasingly prosperous and peaceful and children who really need adoptive parents are increasingly in short supply. I know there are people who really want to become parents naturally or through adoption. Let them have the kids who need adoptive parents.
Rich countries have very few children in need of adoptions and international adoptions are rife with problems with corruption, stealing children, child trafficking and the like.
I would have no problem marrying a sterile woman. I have seen many couples who have found ways to go around the issue of parenthood. Either they settle for no children because they have other priorities or they adopt orphans and raised them as their own feeling doubly blessed.
I think that the concern for parenthood may be universal in as much as people across cultures feel that it is logical, and probably the main point in life, to reproduce and thus perpetuate a family name or a culture. Barrenness or infertility is considered in some cultures as a sign of shame, punishment from the gods or a handicap. However, for different reasons, some cultures have developed a more relaxed attitude towards procreation and therefore a more tolerant attitude towards men or women who are infertile.
I know some people who would rather die before they adopt “who-knows-whose-children”. The idea of raising children whose past or family cannot be traced or who may have “the wrong” kind of genes is appalling for some people. I would not object to adopting, if that would solve the problem. Proper upbringing may be the result of parental care along with environmental factors. Thus, if those two aspects are under control, we may have ideal kids, even if they are not biologically ours.
I think that loving another person goes beyond that person’s ability to have children, thus if I fall in love with a woman who happens to be sterile, I cannot judge her for that. My love should be able to circumvent that issue and find ways to mitigate it, if it needed to be mitigated. The two parties may agree that no having children may be the best option. Some couples establish professional and personal goals as their priority and they find irresponsible to bring children into the equation if they are not going to be taken care of properly.
Other couples may discover that they are not the “parent-type” and would be better off without children. I think that we have all seen children whose parents behave in such a way (irresponsibly, aggressively, etc.) that makes us wish they were sterile.
Yes you can. For the one and only legitimate reason one should enter into a relationship: Love.
It is obvious that everyone would like to have children, but if fate does not allow it, when one or both are infertile, it must be accepted.
To have children is not the goal of our existence, we are passing on this earth to give the best of ourselves, to do the best of good works and to obey Allah.
Personally I marry a woman if she is sterile, it will be our destiny and I will accept it with open arms.
Depends on how fixed one would be on having kids or not...